My mother-in-law arrived at my house yesterday, and honestly, it was a total shock. We've been married for almost 4 years, but she hasn't visited in almost two.
Usually, she calls first, but not this time.
When I saw her face, she looked furious. I tried to be welcoming, giving her a big smile and asking, "Mama, what happened? Why didn't you let us know you were coming?" Her reply hit me like a slap. "Which right do you have over this house that I must inform you of my coming?" I was confused. Mama has never spoken to me that way. I felt so embarrassed cuz my nanny was right there, carrying her bag, and she clearly heard everything.
I just kept quiet and apologized.
She went straight to her room, locked the door, & didn't come out until my husband got back from work. The food I made for her was untouched on the dining table. I even sent the nanny to tell her it was ready, but she sent her away, saying she wasn't interested in my food.
When my husband arrived, she called him into her room.
They were in there for almost four hours. When he finally came out, I asked what was going on, and he just said, “Nothing."
The next morning, I woke up early and made breakfast.
My husband ate quickly and left for work. Before he walked out, he warned me not to near Mama. He said she was in a very bad mood. Around noon, I was worried cuz she hadn't eaten. I went to her room & knocked softly, asking her to come out. When she finally dia, I served her food. You could see the bitterness on her face; she wasn't even trying to hide it. She opened the plate and then flared up. And asked why there was only 2 small piece of chicken in her plate.
I tried to be gentle. I asked her to please forgive me. I told her i wanted to make sure the children had enough for later, so I kept some aside. She didn't listen. She burst out yelling, saying her son was done with our marriage and that I should go find another man. She started calling me and my family "opportunists." She accused me of marrying her son only to exploit him and send money to my mother in the village. Then she hit the worst low: "You haven't even been able to give my son a male child!" Tears were streaming down my face, but l spoke up. I told her, it is not my fault we don't have a son. A son comes from the man, not the woman. That made her even angrier. That's when she dropped the secret my husband had been hiding for months. She pulled out pictures and showed me. My husband had secretly married another woman back in the village. I had absolutely no clue. She said the girl was already pregnant & living with her. Her visit was to inform my husband that she was bringing his new wife here by December so she could spend Christmas in her husband's house. Mama told me I had two choices: accept the girl as a second wife, or pack my things and leave with my girls.
Actually i realized her main reason for all this anger?
Was cuz of my mom. She and my mother are both staying in the village. She's been seeing my mom with new clothes, new hair, new shoes, bags and all the things I've been doing for her and my three siblings. Even though we've equally been taking care of her. But she's mad cuz she feels i and my family are exploiting or benefiting from her son.My mother raised us alone after my dad died when I was seven. I promised her she would reap the fruits of her labor, and I've been doing my best to make her happy. I never knew my kindness to my own mother was costing me my marriage.
Well, I've packed up together with the children and I'm currently at a hotel. What Mama doesn't know is that:
The house she thinks belongs to her son? It is mine. The car he drives? I bought it. Even the boutique business she thinks he owns? I opened it for him, and I still have all the papers.
When I met him, he was just a regular car washer who cleaned my car. I liked his confidence and smartness, and after a bad heartbreak, I wanted to give love one more try. I've Just not been lucky with men😭😭😭 I don't know how I'm supposed to feel right now, but my mind is made up. I'm done him and with marriage. I've learned my lesson. My only priority now is my kids. I refuse to go through this drama again.
