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6. IDENTIFY THE ANGLE OF YOUR VAGINA. If you can help your partner ease into you at the correct angle, you'll avoid some potentially painful fumbling. Most vaginas are angled with a forward tilt toward the belly. If you were standing, your vagina would be at a 45-degree angle to the floor.
• If you use tampons, take note of how you approach inserting a tampon. Try to recreate that same angle when you start penetrative sex.
• If you don't use tampons, insert a finger next time you're in the shower. Aim toward your lower back; if that doesn't feel comfortable, shift forward slightly until you find a point that's comfortable.
7. LOCATE YOUR CLITORIS. Women rarely experience orgasm from penetration alone. Instead, clitoral stimulation usually causes them to orgasm. Oral sex or clitoral stimulation before penetration can relax the muscles.
• Try to locate your clitoris before you have sex. You can do this by masturbating or by looking with a mirror and a flashlight. This can help you guide your partner to it during sex, especially if your partner is also a virgin.
• Orgasming before penetration may actually help reduce pain during sex. Try to engage in oral sex during foreplay and before penetration. Your partner can also stimulate your clitoris with their fingers or a sex toy.
8. PICK A STRESS-FREE LOCATION. If you're constantly worried about getting caught, you might not have much fun. Make it easier on yourself and your partner by choosing a time and place where you won't be disturbed.
• Look for privacy, a comfortable surface to lie down on, and a time when you aren't worried about being on a schedule.
• Think about whether you're more comfortable having sex at your place or theirs.
• If you're in a dorm or if you share a room, you might ask your roommate to give you some time alone that night.
• Dim lighting, soft music, and a warm room temperature can help make you feel safe and comfortable.
• Consider taking some time to groom yourself beforehand so that you feel relaxed and confident.
• If your partner doesn’t want sex, do not pressure them. If you do not want sex, they should back off when you say no.
• Consent also means that you shouldn’t do anything that your partner isn’t enthusiastic about.
11. USE CONDOMS. Condoms protect against both pregnancy and sexually-transmitted infections (STIs). Using protection may help you relax if you are nervous about getting pregnant or a disease. Other forms of birth control do not protect against STIs, so a condom gives you an extra layer of protection. If your partner refuses to use a condom, you may want to reconsider having sex with them.
• There are both male and female condoms available.
• The most important thing about condoms is that they fit. Partners should buy a few different types of condoms. Try them on and see what fits best. If your partner has a latex allergy, nitrile condoms are a great alternative.
• Condoms should be worn before, during, and after penetration. This will increase your protection against STIs and pregnancy.
12. APPLY LUBRICANT. Lubricant will ease a lot of the pain by reducing friction. It can also help prevent condoms from breaking during sex. Apply lubricant to your partner's penis over the condom or sex toy before they penetrate you.
• If you're using latex condoms, do not use an oil-based lubricant. These can weaken the latex and cause the condom to tear or break. Instead, use a silicone- or water-based lube. It is safe to use any type of lube with a nitrile or polyurethane condom.
13. TAKE YOUR TIME. Try to enjoy the moment instead of rushing to the finish line. Spend time figuring out what you and your partner both enjoy. Start with kissing, move to making out, and stick to whatever pace feels most comfortable for both of you.
• Foreplay can help you relax while increasing arousal. It can also increase your natural lubrication, making it easier for your partner to enter you painlessly.
• Remember that you can stop having sex at any point. Consent is active and ongoing. You have the right to stop or withdraw consent at any point you want.
14. COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need in the moment. If something feels good, let your partner know. If something is causing you pain or discomfort, tell them. They should be willing to do what it takes to make you feel pleasure instead of pain.
• If you’re feeling pain, try slowing down, moving more gently, or using more lubrication. For example, if you feel pain, you might say, “Do you mind if we slow down? This is hurting me right now.”
• You can ask your partner to try a different position if the one you’re using is uncomfortable. For example, if you are on top of your partner, you can better control the speed and angle of penetration.
After here the guys can carry on with their work - which is the first part of this lecture 😍
DO SOME AFTERCARE. If you have pain or bleeding, deal with it before it becomes too overbearing. Take an over-the-counter pain reliever, clean up any blood, and wear a light pad for a few hours. If you experience extreme pain, you need to talk to a trusted adult or see a health care provider.
THANK YOUUUUUUUUUU 😘 and have a beautiful sex 💕
