“I have been married to my wife for 3yrs and we have a 2yr old daughter and our marriage and home has been so peaceful has a very peaceful one. I lost my job late last year and even though I thought this would change the trajectory of our marriage but I was wrong, my wife became very supportive and even more kind to me and this is something I do not take for granted.My wife would take up the bills if I’m unable to pay them and never for once did she disrespect me for that or use it against me. As God would have it, I got a new job around May this year and it’s a well paying job—even more than my previous job. I started working at my new job and everything was going on fine….It was all good and rosey until two months ago when my superior at work(female manager) started moving close to me. Initially, I didn’t see get her message, but she did something last month—she called me in her car and said to me how she’s been feeling about me since I got into the office and she’s been finding means to tell me about it, this and that…..Of course, she knows I’m a married man. And my home is a peaceful home. So how could she now be saying all these to someone’s husband? I explained how I can’t betray my wife or have an extra marital relationship and next she she’d “you’d have to choose between having a job or living at joblessness with your family".
At this point, I knew it’s a serious matter. I politely got down from her car and made my way home. The next morning at work, everything changed. A single thing I did at work became wrong in her sight that even my colleagues started noticing and had to ask if I had wronged her before.
I got home that day very exhausted and stressed out that even my wife could see it and had to ask if I was the only who did the whole job in the office for that day but I just shrugged it off. Later at night, I explained to my wife what had happened and what’s at stake at the moment, She was very upset and worried at the same. Upset cos how could she be attached to someone’s else’s husband and worried that, what if I lose my job again. I’ve already made my stance known to her that I would rather lose the job than betray her and she finds that soothing. But then, I could see it in her face how worried she seems. Being without job all over again and having to split bills and all that seems to be her major concern and I understand that. It was really draining the last time.
Please I want your advice on what I should do cos I’m lost at this point.
