My wife left two years ago, that she was tired and needed a break from the marriage, by then she had a job that was paying her around 6k. I don’t know how she saw 6k like it's a big deal. She left the kids on me, saying marriage was making her not focus on her job and that her
career was important and a whole lot, and went to rent elsewhere.
I took care of the kids, I still balanced it with my job. She came home once a while to see them, but treated me like I don’t matter. For the two years she was away, she had no respect for me.
We never got intimate and she never spoke to me properly. Then a few months ago she lost that same job she chose over us. She didn’t tell me, but I heard it from her friends and colleagues.
Her rent is also due for expiration in two months.
Guess who’s trying to be a wife again? Funny! She’s been begging. Asking to return home, that the kids need her.
She has involved her family, everyone now sees how I’ve solely taken care of the kids for two years without needing their mom, isn’t that selfish?
This same woman told me sometime ago when I mentioned the kids that they needed her, she said she would return my dowry if that’s what would give her her liberty to work and stay away from us.
For two years, she never asked how I got satisfied sezzually as a man. She never cooked nor cleaned in this house. Just because of 6k monthly salary.
If that is what it takes, I shouldn’t be married cuz as at when she left, I was earning 15.5K, minus fuel allowance. I still supported her, I cooked and cleaned and took care of the kids. I never intimidated her
I committed 5.5K of my salary into her hands monthly, yet I still covered other expenses at home.
When she started this, I didn’t know what to do. I felt so bad. But not now, My life is aligned and balanced with my goals.
I handled the kids and worked fine. No one helps, not a nanny, relative or any other woman. Yes, I’m seeing someone but it’s just for sezz and that rarely even happens cuz most times, I’m engaged with the kids or doing house chores.
I love the new me. I haven’t told the kids that their mom is bad, I always make sure to say good stuff.
Accepting her back because the job is no more and she can’t afford to live on her own is my issue.
What happens if the job comes back? So yeah, that’s probably why this marriage is over already. She couldn’t be loyal to me. I cried to her at the beginning, offered to increase the 5.5K I gave her at the end of each month among others, but now we’re okay.
I save more and the kids and I are happy. We go out, we play and we do things together around the house. They’re 9 y/o(girl) and 6y/o (boy), just two.
I'm not taking her back. She should continue to live on her own and do what she wants. I hope I’m being sound here?
