My husband lives in the USA. He is schooling and working over there. I was supposed to join him when he got there so we could send for our children as well. We made preparations and everything but unfortunately, my visa got declined. Since then my marriage has not been the same. The physical distance was hard enough as it was. But now I can feel the emotional distance growing as well.
The least thing I do provokes him to anger. In his moments of anger, he would talk to me anyhow. The love and affection in his voice has been absent. I no longer know what to say to him that won’t trigger him. It has made me afraid to call him.
When I don’t call or text him, he also would take forever to check up on me and the kids. Sometimes it would take days or even an entire week before we hear from him. These days he hardly even bothers to call. Meanwhile, we used to talk all the time, when he first got there. He gave me updates about everything he experienced. Now, he is always in a hurry to end our phone calls.
I understand that life abroad can be very busy, but I’m struggling to understand if this is just about him being too busy. Is it possible that something else is going on? I’m not there to accuse him of anything, but as his wife and mother of his children, I can’t help but feel that something is off.
Is it really possible for a man to be so busy in the U.S. that he has no time to check in on his wife and children regularly? Has anyone experienced something similar? I want to know if his behaviour is normal.
