One night, he came home a bit tipsy and wanted to be intimate. I was extremely tired that night and told him I couldn’t do it. I honestly didn’t think it was a big deal since we’re usually very consistent in that department. To my surprise, he got visibly annoyed and started saying some really hurtful things, calling me “boring” and accusing me of not being supportive as a wife.
What hurt me even more was what he did next. He went ahead and mastarbated right there. Feeling bad about turning him down, I tried to kiss him and help him in some way, but he pushed me away and refused, saying I had “betrayed” him as a wife. I was stunned by his reaction.
Since that night, our home has been filled with tension. He has completely withdrawn from me and barely speaks to me anymore. When I try to talk to him, he’ll respond briefly, but it’s like he’s avoiding me. He spends a lot of time upstairs, constantly on his phone, and it’s clear he’s trying to keep his distance.
The hardest part is that there’s no affection anymore. No kissing, no cuddling, nothing. It’s as if the warmth and connection we used to have have vanished. I’ve tried everything I can think of to make amends. I’ve apologized multiple times, begged him to talk to me, and even tried initiating affection, but he shuts me out completely.
At first, I was angry with him for calling me boring and treating me this way just because I didn’t feel up to it that one night. I thought it was unfair and immature, but now I’m more concerned about the state of our relationship. It seems like he’s still mad at me, and I don’t know how to fix this.
This situation is really affecting me emotionally. I love my husband, and I want us to go back to how things used to be. I miss the intimacy, the affection, and the connection we shared. But I feel like I’m hitting a wall every time I try to reach out to him.
What should I do to get him to open up and bring us back together? I’m desperate for advice because the silence and distance between us are breaking me.
