Last week, while my wife a 49 yrs old female,was taking a shower, I 50 years old male,saw a notification pop up on her phone. And went to open it thinking it was one of our daughters
I was shocked with what I Saw I clicked on the message and sawa short
thread mostly confirming dinner plans for that
evening and how they missed each other and
how once a week wasn't enough.
I knew what I saw, twenty nine years of
marriage down the drain. Hoping to caught her
in a lie before she left the house, I texted both
of our daughters and asked about the girls
dinner. What happened next broke me to my
core. Both girls confirmed the dinner and said
they were excited and I couldn't believe it. Not
proud of what came next, I turned her location
sharing on with me in her phone and let her
leave. I followed her to the restaurant and lo
and behold, neither of our daughters was
there. But instead, a man I knew was her boss
Was there.
I was so heartbroken, part of me was hoping I
was just a paranoid freak and my daughters
would be there happy to see me but no just my
cheating wife and her AP. I took pictures of the
two of them holding hands and kissing. I know
I should have waited but I couldn't help myself
Iwas sO angry. As soon as I got in my car, I
opened the group chat we had as a family sent
them all the pictures and said glad you are
enjoying girls dinner together. And then turned
my phone off and drove to my brother's house
and asked to stay the night. I woke up the next
morning to over forty texts and twenty
voicemails.My wife ran through the entire cheater’s playbook of excuses. I didn’t even bother listening to her voicemails. I was ready to reply with a message saying I was getting a divorce and would recommend a lawyer—but my brother stopped me. He gave me a better idea: meet with every top divorce lawyer in town first so she couldn’t use them.
Instead of replying, I dropped a short message in the group chat: “I’m physically fine but need some time. I’ll come home when I’m ready.” Then I muted my phone.
That morning, I started calling the best divorce attorneys in the area, booking consultations. I met with each one. Finally, I chose the lawyer who looked most ready to go full scorched earth.She said she was sorry but I shouldn't throw
away a good marriage because of one little
mistake. This made me furious Beatrice this
isn't a mistake, this is a betrayal from a whole
family. Please don't reach out again until |
make first contact. She never responded but |
know she showed it to my soon to be ex
because she started saying that I shouldn't
take this out on Beatrice. I never responded. I
will never talk to her again except through
lawyers.
This all happened five days ago, I am still at
my brother's and can't contain my feelings. I
cry every morning for almost everyday. |
oscillate between complete debilitating
sadness and all consuming anger.
Losing my wife will be hard enough but how do
lever look at my children again?
How do leven begin to forgive them?
Beatrice is suppose to get married in five
months time, I have been paying for almost
everything now I am probably not going to
attend the wedding.
I don't even know how to move forward. I am
completely destroyed.
